Hot flashes, how much is too much?

I recently started having hot flashes that are embarring and happen many times through out the day. is there any relief? I started taking an over the counter med for menopause symptoms but no Relief yet. Im hating this so much. people stare as I got sweat pouring down my face. I take a shower and cant put make up on without it sweating right off, help me i'm too young for this